IDENTIFIKASI HAMBATAN DAN UPAYA KOMUNIKASI EFEKTIF DALAM HUBUNGAN JARAK JAUH (LDR)
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Penelitian ini bertujuan mengeksplorasi hambatan dan strategi komunikasi dalam hubungan jarak jauh (LDR) lintas negara melalui wawancara mendalam dengan dua pasangan yang memenuhi kriteria tertentu, seperti durasi hubungan minimal 6 bulan pacaran dan 3 bulan LDR. Data tambahan diperoleh dari open-ended questionnaire yang dibagikan kepada pasangan LDR lainnya. Terdapat data tambahan bahwa ekspektasi awal terhadap LDR dan dampaknya sangat mempengaruhi cara individu menjalani hubungan ini. Hambatan yang dihadapi termasuk kecemburuan, kemarahan, kesepian, serta hambatan komunikasi seperti kurangnya waktu dan kesulitan mengekspresikan emosi. Pasangan sering menghadapi konflik dan kelelahan emosional akibat masalah jadwal dan interaksi terbatas. Untuk mengatasi hambatan ini, pasangan menerapkan strategi seperti komunikasi terbuka, kompromi, dan menjaga koneksi emosional melalui panggilan video dan percakapan mendalam. Ekspektasi pasangan bervariasi, dari minimal hingga mengantisipasi tantangan besar. Dampak LDR mencakup pertumbuhan pribadi, peningkatan kualitas hubungan, penguatan ikatan, kesepian, dan kelelahan emosional. LDR juga mempengaruhi interaksi sosial pasangan, memungkinkan lebih banyak waktu dengan teman tetapi dapat mengurangi kedekatan dengan mereka. Penelitian ini menyimpulkan bahwa komunikasi terbuka, kompromi, dan saling pengertian antar pasangan dalam LDR sangat penting untuk menjaga kelancaran hubungan. Penelitian ini menyoroti pentingnya strategi komunikasi yang efektif dan pengelolaan ekspektasi untuk mengurangi dampak negatif LDR dan mencapai tujuan hubungan yang diinginkan.
Abstract - This study aims to explore the barriers and communication strategies in long- distance relationships (LDR) across countries through in-depth interviews with two couples who meet certain criteria, such as a minimum relationship duration of 6 months of dating and 3 months of LDR. Additional data were obtained from open-ended questionnaires distributed to other LDR couples. It was found that initial expectations of LDR and its impacts significantly influence how individuals navigate these relationships. Barriers encountered include jealousy, anger, loneliness, and communication challenges such as lack of time and difficulty expressing emotions. Couples often face conflicts and emotional exhaustion due to scheduling issues and limited interactions. To overcome these barriers, couples employ strategies such as open communication, compromise, and maintaining emotional connections through video calls and deep conversations. Expectations among couples varied, from minimal to anticipating significant challenges. The impacts of LDR include personal growth, improved relationship quality, strengthened bonds, loneliness, and emotional fatigue. LDR also affects couples' social interactions, allowing more time with friends but potentially reducing closeness with them. This study concludes that open communication, compromise, and mutual understanding between partners in LDR are crucial for maintaining a smooth relationship. The research highlights the importance of effective communication strategies and managing expectations to mitigate the negative effects of LDR and achieve desired relationship goals.
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